While we have not been trying to get pregnant for too long (7 months), I am most afraid that my husband or I may be infertile.  Any young couples worst nightmare.

Now I have been doing a lot of research on infertility, fertility treatment methods, as well as some alternative - ‘holistic approaches’.  Yet, it seems there are some ethical standards of fertility that I never knew about, mainly because I never had any interest in the subject until now.

Anymore in today’s society, it seems that when people think about fertility treatments they think of the ‘Octomom’ and that is not me.  I am married, employed, and I have no other children - and I have wanted just one child to call my own.

The criticism among society, and the people around me I am not worried about - but it is that of my church that is weighing in on my dreams of having a child.

The ethics of fertility varies among religion and church - whether you are Mennonite, Roman Catholic, Judaism, Hindu, or Muslim - all have their own views on fertility treatments.

I am Roman Catholic, a relgion that does not allow the substitution of artificial fertilization. In the words of the church - “It is intrinsically immoral because it does not respect the dignity and sacredness of the conjugal act nor the rights and dignity of the embryos conceived.”  In the eyes of my religion, the only choice my husband and I have is hormonal treatments and surgery.  As I feel some type of relief knowing I have an option…then I start to wonder - “what if that doesn’t work?”

I am faced with my own ethical debate - do I sit with the beliefs of my church and live a life without a child of mine own -or- do I choice In vitro and face the wrath of God?

If you are interested in reading more on God and IVF.